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Thanks to skimpy clothing styles and anorexic magazine
models being touted as the way that people are supposed to look, in our
culture, being overweight can be the kiss of death to singles trying to find a
mate, as well as to couples who are trying to put the spark back into their
love lives. Everyone is trying to diet so that they can be slim, sexy,
desirable, and find love.
In their search for love, singles often post profiles on
Internet dating sites. As part of their profile, they routinely post 10+ year
old pictures of when they were much thinner. And it is also common for them to
miss-state their weight by 30 or more pounds. But none of this is much help at
convincing someone to instantly fall in love with them. That's because when
they eventually meet for dinner, a drink, or a cup of coffee, the truth is
revealed.
Being on a diet is neither a pleasant nor natural way of
life. Even though scientists tell us that all of the popular diets work and
will make you lose weight, no one seems to be able to stick to them, for many
complex psychological reasons. What many people don't understand is that our
unconscious mind compels us into behaviors that will benefit and protect us.
And being overweight can be one of those behaviors. When I tell that to
clients, most of them respond with a look of "you ain't playing with a
full deck, you must be crazy, not me!" on their faces. Then they try to
lecture me that I must be wrong, because being overweight is not a behavior, it
is just the result or outcome of overeating.
Unfortunately they are wrong. Often being overweight is the
result of emotional eating. Emotional eating takes place when a person is
motivated to make him or herself fat, because by being fat they will protect
themselves in some way. For example, if a person got their heart broken in a
relationship, their unconscious might motivate them into a behavior that would
prevent them from getting their heart broken again. In this example they are
motivated to get fat to keep them out of another relationship, because that
will eliminate the possibility of another broken heart.
The reverse can also be true. Someone involved in an unhappy
marriage might unconsciously motivate himself or herself to become fat to keep
them in the marriage for the sake of the children, or because they are afraid
of being alone. As a matter of fact, there are as many different possible
benefits that one can obtain from being fat as there are overweight people.
There are also two other unconscious programs that cause the
average person's appetite and cravings for food and an urges to eat to get out
of control:
A.
When you pair
eating with any other behavior, the two behaviors become associated together at
the unconscious level of mind. Thereafter, other behavior will trigger cravings
for food and a compulsion to eat. This
is called a conditioned response. For example, if you eat when you watch TV,
you will automatically feel an urge to eat each time you sit down to watch TV.
B.
When you feel
tense, you feel compelled to put something into your mouth for relaxation and
pleasure. This is the result of programming that you received as an infant.
When you got cranky, your mom put a bottle in your mouth. You got distracted,
relaxed, and probably fell asleep. Now when you get cranky (anxious or tense),
you feel compelled to put something into your mouth for relaxation and
pleasure.
Okay, okay, some of this psychobabble sounds pretty
complicated, so what can you do to fix this situation? We discussed emotional
eating, which makes the person overweight. And the "behavior" of
being overweight then provides some sort of emotional protection. Being a
hypnotherapist and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) practitioner, I use a
technique called an NLP Six-Step Reframe. The reframe actually negotiates with
the unconscious mind and gets it to assume the responsibility for making the
client automatically substitute some other more acceptable behavior in place of
being overweight. Since the new behavior will provide the same emotional
protection (get the same outcome), the client loses the compulsion to eat to
become overweight for emotional protection.
Hypnotherapy is a great tool for extinguishing the
unconscious associations that cause the conditioned response type of cravings
described in paragraph "A" above. And since the very essence of
hypnosis is relaxation, hypnosis provides a powerful tool for triggering an
overall feeling of peace and well-being, which eliminates the tension that
causes the compulsion to put something into the mouth for relaxation and
pleasure.
Self-hypnosis for weight loss can be a very effective
method. I can only uncover the tip of the iceberg in this short article.
About The Author:
Alan B. Densky, CH has specialized in weight loss since 1978. His Neuro-VISION Video Weight Loss Hypnosis has been used in hundreds of professional offices. He offers a wide range of hypnotherapy CD's for losing weight including low cost hypnosis weight loss & NLP MP3
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